Welcome to today’s lecture, students. This is for any woman who wants to stop wasting her time and save herself years of unnecessary prayers and fasting.
God doesn’t just “give” you a husband. When He created you, He gave you everything you need to find your own man on this earth.
If you want to find a partner who will take you seriously, you must learn these five things.
5 Ways to Get a Husband in Nigeria
1. Stop Asking for Transport Money
This might sound simple, but it is a powerful lesson. Nigerian men are used to women asking them for transport money.
By the time you separate yourself from that league, it will be easy for you to find a husband.
When a man sees that you are the one girl he invites who doesn’t ask him for transport money, just that one thing in his mind will make him want to know you more.
Once you are already dating, even if he is doing everything for you, sometimes when you go out, just offer to pay for the small things.
Tell him, “Babe, no worry, let me pay for that one.” I’m not saying you should pay for everything, but every small thing you do for him, he will find a bigger way to pay you back.
Most men in Nigeria are not used to women who contribute, so a small sacrifice will set you apart.
2. Bond with Him
Bonding is important in a relationship, and intimacy is a key part of that bond.
This may sound foolish, but it’s something people don’t talk about enough.
Having a special, deep physical connection makes your bond stronger. This kind of intimacy makes your partner feel close to you in a way he can’t with anyone else.
Having a great intimate life can make your relationship deeper and more committed.
It’s a powerful way to show love and build a lasting connection.
3. Bring Your Standard Down
That kind of man you have created in your head is not what God has for you.
You see all those “standards”—”I want him to be this, I want him to be that”—you need to bring them down.
The package you really need in this life can come in a very unexpected way.
The man you imagine in your head, who is not your “type” or your “spec” right now, could be the guy who can take care of you, take you seriously, and package you into a very good and useful woman.
4. Show Genuine Interest
Stop calling a man only when you want something. A lot of girls, their conversation must always end with you doing them a favor.
Sometimes, call a man and show that you are genuinely interested in his life.
Ask him how work is going or about his future plans. This will make him see you differently.
When you communicate and talk about life together, it’s a sign that you want to be a partner, not a burden.
5. Show Respect
This is the most important lesson. A man needs respect more than love. Your girlfriend can claim to love you, but if she doesn’t respect you, that is not a woman for you. You must respect the man if you want to be his wife.
Choose a man you can respect, and he will, in turn, respect you.
That’s all for today’s lecture, students. Finding a husband is about being a valuable partner.
See you for next class.
