Today’s lecture is about the biggest decision a man can make. If you must marry, you must do these things so your future is guaranteed. If not, you may regret it.
Many people will tell you that men benefit from marriage, but that is not always true. Women need marriage for validation, and that is why a woman can marry a man without being in love with him.
You will see a woman who has been with a man for years. Then another man will come from nowhere, and after just one week of knowing him, if that man proposes marriage, she will likely leave the man who was with her for years and marry the new guy.
This shows they are interested in the marriage, not the man.
Things You Must Do Before You Marry Her
1. Make Sure She Is Sacrificing More Than You
When a woman’s sacrifice is more than yours in a relationship, it becomes very difficult for her to leave.
When she thinks about all the effort and everything she has put in, she will not like to leave.
But if she knows she has nothing to lose, she can leave you without even considering your feelings.
She was not even there for you in the first place; she came because of the marriage.
In a world where women are using men as targets to achieve their marriage dreams, you have to be very careful.
A woman only cares about marriage and what it can provide. It’s all about what she wants and not about you, the man.
This is why even if you are sick, your wife still expects you to provide. And if you fail to provide for a long time, the woman will move on.
People pretend like these things don’t happen, but they happen every day. A woman who truly loves you will not abandon you.
Some of you will say, “I love my girlfriend, but she is so stubborn.” My guy, your girlfriend is not stubborn; she does not respect you.
So, when a woman’s sacrifices are more than a man’s in a relationship, that marriage must work.
If women were the ones using their money to sponsor the marriage, divorce rates would reduce.
2. Give Her More Responsibility to Handle
Give her more responsibility to handle. Find a good time to transfer some money into your girlfriend’s or fiancée’s account.
It should be an amount you can afford to lose, depending on your capability.
Just call her and say, “Baby, there is money with me that I don’t want to spend now, please hold it for me.”
After some months, ask her for the money back.
If she can’t give you the money intact and starts giving you stories like, “I put it in one business,” or “I gave it to someone who needed help, but when I sell something, I will pay you back,” that is a huge red flag.
That person, if you marry her, will likely squander your money and give you excuses.
But if she transfers the money back to you without a single story, it means she can manage money.
It means that if you give her more responsibility, she will deliver.
Even the Bible says that a person who cannot be trusted in little should not be trusted with more.
This is a simple test, but it will tell you everything you need to know.
That’s all for today’s lecture, students. Marriage is a lifetime decision, not a game of chance. You must be wise and strategic.
See you for next class.
